Welcome to Clear 7! In this episode I talk about Shadow, and in particular an aspect that isn’t talked about as much - the Golden Shadow. Our shadows are the parts of us that we hide, repress and deny. Often these are dark, deep beliefs we have about ourselves, but there are also often positive aspects of ourselves that we hide away too.
Young boys (and girls) can be told, explicitly or implicitly, that parts of themselves are not welcome. Maybe they are seen as “too loud”, “too gentle”, “too sensitive” and told to be quiet, to toughen up, to stop crying.
To be accepted, even to feel loved, we can put those parts into shadow. Hide them from the world, as we’ve learnt it’s not safe to express them.
One valuable part of getting clear is to find those golden shadows you’re hiding and learn how to share them.
And one of the biggest gifts you can give a man is to tell him what golden shadows you see in him. Men need that, more than ever.
E4: The Gold in our Shadows