Lovely story Deri, great to hear you tapping your vulnerability to clear the air.
Although I feel there's a huge gap in this post. How does someone that is in the victim mindset find the commitment mindset? Deri from 2003 was in Oxford University, physically active on the cusp of the first team, surrounded by friends. I'm sure we would've bristled at the idea he wasn't taking responsibility for his life, or somehow uncommitted. You mention depression, but I'm not sure we can just "grow up" out of that.
I think there's a parallel question too. How does someone that's made this commitment mindset deal with failure? It's great to take responsibility for our lives but things can fall apart due to bad luck and then trying to take responsibility can be overwhelming and painful.
The blaming and victim mindset is there to protect us from this pain so I'd be interested to learn more about how you deal with this.
Lovely story Deri, great to hear you tapping your vulnerability to clear the air.
Although I feel there's a huge gap in this post. How does someone that is in the victim mindset find the commitment mindset? Deri from 2003 was in Oxford University, physically active on the cusp of the first team, surrounded by friends. I'm sure we would've bristled at the idea he wasn't taking responsibility for his life, or somehow uncommitted. You mention depression, but I'm not sure we can just "grow up" out of that.
I think there's a parallel question too. How does someone that's made this commitment mindset deal with failure? It's great to take responsibility for our lives but things can fall apart due to bad luck and then trying to take responsibility can be overwhelming and painful.
The blaming and victim mindset is there to protect us from this pain so I'd be interested to learn more about how you deal with this.